Who could you tell?
If you had great news, who could you tell?
Finding a friend to share bad news is pretty easy, we can have many people listen to our struggles and problems, our defeats and misgivings don’t threaten egos and self esteem like our successes can.
People love to commiserate not so much congratulate.
Like lou holtz said about your problems, “ 80 percent don’t care, but 20 percent are glad you have em”
In sharing our bad news, we make those false friends glad it’s not them, some of them won’t even console you In times of need, (I’ve been there with ‘close friends’ too)
But they’re happy you’re doing worse than them. It’s easy consoling someone, when our egos aren’t threatened, we can console downwards, when bad news is someone else’s problem our egos allow us to feel superior as we lend an ear to talk to or a shoulder to cry on.
But sometimes, you’ll feel that you have true friends you can tell your great news with.
The ones that will smile because they know exactly what it means for you.
They know what it may bring you.
They know the opportunity is what you’ve waited for.
What you’ve worked for.
And they can’t hide their elation. It’s written all over their face and yet they get nothing for it.
Nothing from it.
Just the happiness of what it means to you.
Just the joy your success brings to them.
If you don’t have anyone like this in your life, go find them.
If you’re not yet a friend like this to someone in your life, go be one.
Don’t surround yourself with people who make you feel shitty, go lift your your pals and in turn they’ll lift you, a rising tide lifts all ships and all that.
When I was a young boy, my parents had a decorative plate around the house, that said
“True friends are like diamonds, precious but rare.
False friends, like autumn leaves, are found everywhere.”
I heard someone say once, when talking about the death of his closest friend, how he knew he was his best friend.
“No matter where I was in the world, if I got in to trouble, I could have called him and I knew he would come and get me.”
And when I heard that line I thought of mine, who would come for me and who would I go for at the drop of a hat, as I’m sure you will have done too.
As a grateful thought, I think I’m really blessed in being able to share great news with lots of people in my life who are happy for me, but more importantly, they can share their great news with me and it’ll brighten up my day as much as theirs.
“If you wish for kindness, be kind
If you ask for truth be true
What you give of yourself you find
Your world is a reflex of you
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